I was shown such love and kindness today from some amazing women I want to do a pif. This is what I want you to do two things. First tell me what was one thing someone did for you that touched your heart helped you heal shaped your life whatever the case may be. And second. Tell someone you think might be having a bad day or is in depression how much they mean to you or listen to them. Trully listen. If it wasnt for a few particular ladys in here I would have felt even more alone. And I have contemplated suicide before. I lost my brother to suicide. Love someone!! Do you have till friday and my daughter will be picking a name. Best of luck.
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I had two childhood friends who grew up in abusive, very dysfunctional families. I was 10 years older than both of them and we’re still friends. One of them told me, when I was in Massachusetts visiting her a few years ago, that neither of them would have had a childhood if it hadn’t been for me. She said I was Wendy to the lost girls. it touched me so deeply that I can’t even put it into words and I’m crying even now as I write this.
Another close friend of mine was diagnosed with lung cancer on Thursday. I have told her that I won’t let her go through this alone and will do everything in my power to allow her to die at peace in her home.
I wish this was cheerier but it is what it is.
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The point isnt supposed to be sunshine and rainbows it shows love and compassion and caring. And you are perfect for it!!!
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One time, when my children were much younger (about 12 years ago), my family was really struggling, mostly with money. Utilities kept getting shut off, food was scarce, and Christmas was approaching. I was so overwhelmed at church one Sunday that I didn’t even know what to pray for, so I just knelt down and silently prayed, “Help!” I never spoke to anyone at church about our situation, because I was embarrassed that I was failing at taking care of my children. After the service, as I was leaving, the pastor’s wife approached me and handed me a sealed envelope that had my name on the outside. She said that it was laying on a side table when they arrived at church that morning. In the envelope was $500 in cash. It made such a huge difference in my life at that moment. I was able to pay the power bill to prevent disconnection, and I was able to buy Christmas gifts for my children, the two things that I was so worried about. I will never forget that act of kindness, and I will always do whatever I can to help others because of it.
Yesterday I called my grandmother. She is 95 years old and she was very down when I called. She lives in a very small rural town in North Carolina and she has lived there all of her life. When she was a child, there was a denim mill in town that everyone worked at, and it was a reasonably prosperous area. She had 7 brothers and sisters, and her husband, my Papa had 10 siblings. My grandmother has outlived all of them. She lived in the same house that she moved into as a new bride after my Papa returned from WWII. Both my father and my uncle have tried to convince her to move in with them, but she doesn’t want to leave her house, despite her failing health. She sounded so down yesterday, even saying that her children and grandchildren all moved “as far away from her as they could.” Everyone actually left the area for work, but all she understands is that she is very lonely. I really wish that there was more that I could do, aside from just listening and offering words of encouragement.
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You ladies are so sweet and caring. I am crying as I read this. I have been in the same situation as @ashleyfox98 and neighbors and church friends have helped me. I try to help the young families I see that need help and also the senior citizens that don’t have family nearby. I was so blessed by others and I want them to be blessed and feel loved. God bless you ladies.
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I just won a PIF so you don’t have to include me but I want to share anyway. My son is a performer, he composed a beautiful song and asked a friend who is a dancer to dance in the video (not a rap thing, he is more indie meets R&B). We got to know this girl over the time the project took. She is passionate about film making and is studying visual arts (when she isn’t kicking butt dancing). She was entering a film festival and asked if she could do a documentary about my daughter who passed away, she felt a connection being in our house.
What she did healed my heart on so many levels. My daughter was a geek, a math and science geek with a lot of health issues stemming from brain cancer. She was strong and brave and graduated 4.0 with honors even thought she had three brain surgeries, chemo twice, radiation twice and a million hospitalizations. People avoided her, they were kind but there is something about a sick kid that frightens people. She did not have a hundred kids from high school show up at her funeral, they didn’t know her and they didn’t notice when she died. She had a huge funeral full of family and adult friends she made in hospitals and in waiting rooms.
My son is a well known boy, and this dancer friend is a very popular girl. The two of them made this film,it was simple and beautiful it was about how his art was inspired by his love for his sister. The film was played for the entire school, then it was featured at a film festival, then it was on Facebook and Youtube. Nine years after her death her high school mourned and cried and people we did not know knew her.
It was a small thing that turned into a big thing because this girls heart felt like a story needed to be told. No one knew this part of my sons story he had never talked about it until then.
Sometimes the universe finds the people you need in the moment, they may not be who you might expect but someone always shows up when the time is right, you just need to be open to it.
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Oh no I know what is to lose a brother to suicide. My brother took his life at 24 9 years ago 
I haven’t have nobody to relay on or help me, but I keep finding in myself the strength to go on. We have one life so I intent to live it and I have encourage many others to do so too. I have a friend that lost her daughter who wasn’t my friend before, but her need of support brought her close to me. I also help my worst enemy through a crises. I have been lucky to be here and been able to help people when they need it.
I’m so sorry for you lost and I’m here if you ever need to talk.
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Don’t enter me either, but I’m glad to participate here. My mother who, was almost blind and gravely ill and living in a nursing home at the time, gave me a gift one evening that changed my life. My husband, my dad and I were visiting with her and she motioned to me to take her out in the hall because she said she “needed to tell me something”. When we were in the hall, she whispered that she didn’t know if I would believe her or not but that she had had a visit from my cousin that day. My cousin had passed away several years earlier from breast cancer, but I could see how important it was to my mom to tell me what had happened so I asked her to tell me about her visit. She said she started as a bright spot that got bigger and bigger and then turned into Becky. She said she was wearing a long blue dress and that they had talked a little and then she went away the same way she had come. Over the next few months she also saw several other already departed members of our family including her grandmother who was wearing a long black “old-fashioned” dress, and her dad who kept coming to see her and trying to get her to go on a bus ride with him (she always told him she wasn’t ready). My mom could barely see her own hand, but her visits were very detailed and clear as a bell to her.
I’d always believed in angels, but in a very abstract way. The idea of family members coming to visit someone near death was a new one to me and very comforting. Everyone she saw was someone she truly loved. The person my mom loved most in her life had always been her father, and the fact that he kept coming to see if she was ready to go on a bus ride with him really touched me. I have a feeling the day she died she decided to take him up on his offer.
Her visits with her favorite people before she passed away gave me a sense of peace about the process of the transition death brings, and a confirmation of my belief in angels being near us always. Losing someone you love is always hard, but the thought of having the person they most love come to guide them from here to there makes it a bit easier.
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Some people will think I’m crazy but sometimes they come after death, too, to let us know they’re okay. It’s not always so direct but there are other ways they let us know they’re still around.
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That is so true.Don’t include me but after my brother was murdered,we were all in the family depressed, angry, and upset.He was 58 years old and a Viet Nam vet.I was only about 7 when he came home from the war and did not remember any of the letters that he had sent from Nam.One night,I heard his voice tell me to “tell all I am fine”.Well long story short,it turns out that he ended his letters from Nam with that “tell all I am fine”.I honestly believe that he was telling me that he was fine and in the arms of his savior and we could all quit stressing out.Of course until his murderer was sent to prison for life,I still was crazy but it did give me comfort knowing that he was fine.
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That’s really beautiful. 
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Keep on entering!! I will be picking a winner Wednesday instead of friday!
A moment I will never forget was at my grandfather’s wake… it was actually on my sixteenth birthday, if you can believe it! It was the first time I’d ever lost a grandparent. I was crying, and I thought I’d never stop feeling sad. But my aunt came up to me and said, “Before Grandpa died, he told me he loved you so much. He said that you are stronger than you think you are.”
I’m not sure if my grandfather ever actually said those words, but they meant a lot to me. I’d just been discharged from a psychiatric ward (I also struggle with depression) and hearing that someone thought I was strong made me feel so much better. It’s so important to remind people that they are more resilient than they think.
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About to pick!!!
@CarolinaCuties message me your adress hun! Congrats. @ashleyfox98 you too!!
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Are you sure my name was picked? I don’t remember entering.
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Dang it must of hit the wrong one lol.
Wow Thank you !
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Oh no it changed again so so sorry 
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