Guys, I have a dilemma. Hoping to get some different points of view or opinions on this.
Some of you may know from my previous posts that my mission is purchasing a first reborn for my elderly mother.
Mom may be in the early stages of Alzheimer’s or dementia (it runs strongly on both sides of her family), and I’m hoping a reborn might provide some peaceful “company” as she ages.
I haven’t yet posted her full list of preferences yet. That doesn’t matter for this conversation.
It is important to note that she has stated, “any color ”. Being warmly accepting of people of all races is literally part of her religion. Mom is a social butterfly currently isolated due to Coved19.
Let’s avoid making this political, it certainly isn’t intended to be in any way despite the title.
She has also chosen not to make any more choices besides her original list which was made during a moment of clarity. The final decision is mine.
I have the opportunity to purchase an attractive reborn with a sculpt that Mom likes that is within my price range.
It’s an AA baby. Our family is mainly Caucasian.
I know that now, Mom will be thrilled with her new baby doll no matter what it looks like. It may or may not look like her children and grands, and that’s okay!
But what about down the line, as she loses her mind? Might she stress that this child’s parents haven’t returned for them? If her doll doesn’t resemble her family in the most basic way, might that cause more anxiety rather than alleviate it?
I’ve heard that seniors can stress over a crying reborn being inconsolable, or worried over an open eyed doll not sleeping.
Is it important for a mentally declining person to see their reborn as potentially part of their family memories?
I hate the idea of her telling caretakers that she hopes this baby’s parents are coming to get her soon, or something to that effect just because it doesn’t look like us.
I want something that will please her long term. Must I choose a white doll in order to do so?
I’d love to hear what you guys have to say about this! I hope this isn’t too controversial. Just trying to do the right thing.